I (27F) am 5 months pregnant. I have pre-existing health issues that I manahe by having a diet with no meat of any sort. This has caused me and MiL to have confilcts especially when I refuse to eat the food she makes. I used to either come and not eat anything or just stay at home. Since I’ m pregnant I could not attend Thanksgiving and not bring food with me out of respect for MiL. I cooked a small meal and brought it with me. MiL made a fuss about it but justified it as “I was making a mistake robbing her grandbaby of getting all meat benefits”. I explained that I take supplements as replacement but she shrugged and was upset.
We waited til dinner table was set. MiL didn’t let me help or go into the kitchen at all. She took my dish and said she’d reheat it for me and put it on the table. Yet when I sat down I was stunned to have discovered that she had not put my dish there. When asked publically, she denied recieving any dish from me and started asking if I accidently left it at home or the car. There was a huge blow up. MiL tried to convince me to sit back down and just eat what she put on the table. I refused but my husband insisted and told me to let it go this time. I decided to leave. I grabbed my stuff and walked out. I found out that she threw out the dish I brought and tried to get me to just eat what she put on her table. She said that she was looking out for grandbaby’s health and my husband said it wasn’t worth leaving the celebration and causing a scene. We had a big argument and his mom thinks I’m being dramatic and hard to deal with. Was I the ahole for walking out? INFO! The dish I brought was supposed to keep me full and provide me with all the benefits. So it wasn’t like any of her appetizers or side dishes. I also put work into making it and it cost me money. She keeps insisting it’s about her grandbaby and her concern for their health.